Here I Am - Value your Victories

Here I Am

Well, after about a year of thinking about writing a blog, I finally decided to do it. I hope that you find what I have to share with you interesting and maybe makes you think a little bit. I will be respectful of my readers and I hope that you get some value out of what I have to say. I will be drawing on my experience being in HR for over 25 years and my life experience in bringing you my thoughts. I will also be drawing on my experience as a Little League coach where I coached Minor and Junior Girls Softball, hence the title of the Blog.

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Value your Victories

My experience as a Little League coach has been valuable to me giving me lessons that I have used in my Leadership and Managerial coaching.  One story I recently told a group of our Doctor and Nurse Practitioner leaders was about my last year in coaching. We started our season off well being 3-1. But, due to rain outs and needing to make up some games, we came upon having to play 5 games in 8 days. Also, if you have ever coached Little League, one of the challenges you face is planning out your pitching. During this stretch of games, I was going to have to have kids pitch who had not pitched all season. So, in our last practice before this stretch of games, I channeled my inner Vince Lombardi, and I told the girls, "We have 5 games, in 8 days. This is our season. If we win 2, we'll have some work to do to make the playoffs. If we win 3, we'll be ok. If we win 4, we'll be in really good shape to win the Pennant. We win 5, we clinch the Pennant!"

As I am giving this speech, I was getting more excited, and the girls were feeding off of my positive energy. I was thinking to myself, "I wish we could play the first game, now." So, sure enough, two days later, we win the first game, and then two days after that we win the second game. Then two days later, when I had two girls pitching who had not pitched all year, we won again. I'm thinking This is great! Then we had to play again the next day, but I had my two best pitchers pitching and we won again! Four wins in a row! This is awesome! I was excited, the girls were excited, this was great. 

Now, we play again two days later, and we lost that game. Also, not only did we lose, we lost playing sloppy softball and the team had no energy or enthusiasm. So, I would really like to say that after the game, I comforted the team, and told them that winning 4 out of the last 5 games was great and they deserved the next few days off and they should be proud of how they played during this stretch of games. But that's not what I did.

What I did was give my team a stern "talking to" about everything they did wrong during that game, instead of focusing on the truly great achievements they made over the past 8 days. It was one of the worst mistakes that I ever made in coaching. Afterward, I felt really bad and at our next practice, I apologized to my team, because they truly were owed an apology for how I behaved. Thank goodness my girls, including my daughter Alie, forgave me.

So, why did I tell my managers this story?

When coaching and managing people, we need to value the strides they make in their performance. Also, if you make a mistake in managing and leading your people, it's ok to apologize for it. Holding people accountable for their performance, or at times the lack of it, is important. However, it is also important that we, as managers and leaders, deliver that positive feedback and recognize the good performance that our people provide, when they provide it.

Thanks for reading and I look forward to your comments.